Tel : (585) 441-0954

© 2019 by Boice Divorce Mediation. Created by Blue Lilac Marketing Group

  • Twitter Social Icon
  • LinkedIn Social Icon
  • YouTube Social  Icon
  • donboice

"We are Fine"

"I want to be in a romantic relationship and know my partner well. I want her to talk with me and get to know me. I want her to want to talk and listen and grow together.” She replies that she is fine as it is. Any predictions for what might happen next? If they don’t clarify, can you spot at least one possible way to misunderstand what was said?

I just love this author and speaker-  He has an idea for how to proceed (I included 6 of them): From Kenneth Cloke’s “Ten Paths to Transcendence” 1. Engage in committed, open-hearted listening, as though your life depended on what you are about to hear. 2. Use a spotlight of narrow, focused attention and a floodlight of broad, sweeping awareness to clarify what is taking place beneath the surface. 3. Use dangerous empathy to search for the center of the conflict within yourself, then ask questions to discover whether the same might be true for others. 4. Use dangerous honesty to communicate your deepest understanding. 5. Use your heart to locate a heart-space in the conversation, then open and expand it. 6. Craft a question that asks people to speak and listen directly from their hearts.

0 views