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Want an Overview of Mediation?

If you are interested in learning more about certain topics in Divorce Mediation, how to best prepare yourself for a good experience – you might like my YouTube creations:

Contemplating Divorce: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5rsfePrJRJA

Is Mediation Right For Us?

Inspiration to listen before you go to mediation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yoD8fHN_BVQ

Should I mediate: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bJDfpAJZphU

Before you mediate (good food for your mind) : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aIAQvp2hR4

Goal of protection during Mediation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vlAMfVome5g

Practical Prep for Mediation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GcJwz916Sm4

Think about who you want to mediate your divorce process. Who do you trust guiding you and having your best interests? Think about the personality of the person and how well they “play with others.” Is your mediator someone humble enough that she/he knows they need to forever continue their education, and give back to the field or is it the person who is a lone wolf or hypercompetitive? Do you want someone who is willing to give information out for free or hoard it? Is it someone who has a “one size fits all” approach? Is it someone who can get you connected to experts or the person who thinks they know all the aspects of divorce process? Do you want someone who knows the topics but can also deal with your feelings? Do you want someone who is warm and fuzzy and can be empathetic? Do you want someone whose office returns your calls?

Specific suggestions for your communication process:

How to have a better fight/argument: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AH9YvDiOz2o

How to tell the children: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1RW7mwsx1yI

How feelings work: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xBrUzXM64NU

Can you clarify to improve your communication: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZ-FDA3jCOI

Validating your partner for effective communication: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P8AiO1t7VEA

Getting your needs met: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1KKgdneFrkQ

Topics From Game Theory That Apply to Mediation:

Don’t get tricked into fighting: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=opmNL35zKio

Nash Equilibrium is the highest win-win: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bl6Yb5Kd4bY

Bayes Rule for conflict: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R4hmm0BYKjA

Don’t make it into win-lose: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zVLe1Z2lRgs

Process Standards- do we both have buy-in: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XIhy_cUYcZg

Topic Areas Within Mediation

College Expenses: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sUgLxTqfynA

Equitable Distribution of Assets in mediation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZQv_wR9EB9w

Child support concepts: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vgUUiuvysD4

The Parenting Plan (formerly called custody) and schedule: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D-zEQCY9uHU

Talking about your ex: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ivbkVmjFec

Talking about money: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_NhUtu7y798

Talking about taxes and implications during the process of divorce: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bt24Si1kMog

Ideas for your Budget during mediation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FbOQpaCxJe4

Step kids and kids; how to have the conversations: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwZG_ZOmYOw

Talking about the chores: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kg2xWRWofi0


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