Why chose Rochford Law and Mediation? (585) 348-9786
I have stopped doing Mediation and recommend you talk with Cyndy Rochford about Collaborative Law and Mediation.
You benefit from my ability to refer you to experts, most of whom I personally know.
How do you know your mediator is up to date?
You want to know that your mediator has more than the basic training specific to mediation. Other fields of study are nice complements but you go to a mediator who has training in mediation.
Many mediators think that doing a basic training is enough, even though in the training itself, every instructor urges people to go beyond the minimum requirements.
You benefit from a convenient location and incredibly flexible hours and free parking.
I know how hard it can be to ask for help from a stranger. Part of you would like to come and do this and another part doesn’t even want to deal with it or wants to simply get over it as fast as possible.
Most Common Process Options for Divorce
Do it yourself. Pro se= you represent yourself without a lawyer. There are computer programs that offer to assist you with this. You need to fill out the 24 forms and file them. Divorce is state by state, so make sure that you follow the laws of your state. One downside might be that you get the paperwork sent back to you to redo and resubmit. Another downside is that there could be implications for not having someone look at your decisions and challenge your perspective and some people have regretted “giving it all away.”
Kitchen Table This is when two people agree to pretty much every single aspect and take their agreements to a neutral attorney to write up the separation agreement and file it, and the 24 forms, on their behalf.
Pro se with the MOU, after a mediation- Some couples go through mediation and get the Memorandum of Understanding, have it notarized and file it, then do the 24 forms themselves.
Mediation with separate review attorneys after the mediation process to ensure they have had a thorough outside review by someone only interested in their side. Some people feel really protected by this.
Mediation with no review attorneys and just go to the neutral attorney to write the separation agreement and file it along with the 24 forms.
Collaborative law- where each party has an attorney in the room and a neutral person facilitates the process. The attorneys have additional training, so that they look out for the process, “play nice” with the others and don’t simply protect their own client.
Litigation Just know that if you are doing this to “get my day in court”- it is highly unlikely to end the way you anticipate. Most do not go to trial and many run out of money. Most are settled out of court, for a much higher attorney cost than any other method.
Trial The estimates vary on how much this costs and how often a couple takes their divorce all the way to trial. 2-3% of couples who litigate go all the way to trial. This costs a significant amount of money to do and gets the same result of divorce, but often destroys the chances of a good co-parenting relationship or civil relationship, due to the processes used in court.